A Letter to My Colleagues in Mental Health

I wanted to make a video about why I do Collaborative Divorce, specifically for my colleagues in mental health. If you’re considering taking the training in Collaborative Divorce - read on!

Being a counselor was always a "near fit" for me. 

I'm pretty assertive. 

I'm pretty solution focused. 

I'm pretty goal oriented. 

I know some counselors are all these things as well. However, I'm also SUPER passionate about families going through transitions well. 

After a decade of working with families on the other side of divorce, 

     - trying to fix the damage that divorce did

     - trying to help mend relationships between parents and children

I knew there had to be a better way. That led me to Collaborative Divorce. 

Collaborative is a way for a professional team to lead a family through the steps of disentangling their marriage WITHOUT tearing each other to shreds in the process.

It involves:

  - two attorneys - one per spouse, who function as the legal technicians, helping us all color within the lines of what the law will allow,

  - a divorce coach (mental health professional), to help everyone stay in their frontal lobe, keep everyone engaged, educate about parenting, how emotions impact decision making, basically keep us on the rails. 

  - a financial neutral to educate and guide the couple toward a decision that will work specifically for them, taking into consideration their financial goals, tax implications for them, current debts and assets, etc. 

Here's why I love it. 

We work TOGETHER. 

As a team.  

This business is full of professionals who share values around: empowering families to be kind. To work through these decisions themselves. To extend grace, to give each other the benefit of the doubt. 

Professionally, I have not only found my stride, but I feel like I've also found my tribe.